Visit the Silver Ribbon Coalition!
Do people call you depressing or pessimistic? Do you see good things in others' lives, but not your own. Do you engage in a lot of negative self-talk? Do you believe life sucks? Here are a few possible (and very common) reasons why:
• You're stuck in the past. Maybe life truly sucked at one point, maybe when you were young and impressionable. Is your life today the same? Of course not. It might not be what you always dreamed of, but can you honestly say there's nothing good? You woke up; thousands of people didn't. You're literate; millions aren't. Reframe this day and be thankful. It's a cliché but it's true: the past is the past, the future is uncertain, and today is a gift - that's why it's called the present!
• You believe you deserve pain. Maybe some cruel person told you that you were terrible. Maybe you're carrying around a load of guilt about something. Whatever caused it, you have this concept that nothing in life can possibly be good or fun or simple or rewarding. Have you truly done something that even God can't forgive? (Impossible.) Take out that garbage, leave it at the curb, and start healing.
• You accept the limits others impose. Worse, you accept them without question. This keeps you from aspiring to be more, although it doesn't keep you from wanting more. But since you don't think you're allowed to do or be more, of course it sucks that you can't have it! Time to re-think those limits - are they real or rational? Since when do others get to set arbitrary limits on your potential? Your destiny is in your hands! See the previous post on mind control!
• You believe drama must be part of life. Your life is spiraling downward because you've attached yourself to other drama addicts. Drama begets trauma. (You've watched enough "reality" TV to know it's true.) And it's your choice, but are you sure this is the route you want?
• You settle for less than you want or need. People settle because they're impatient, lazy, or have a near-zero sense of self-worth. Don't try to tell me you're impatient, because if you were, you wouldn't have read all this. And if you're lazy, you don't really believe life sucks because you're too apathetic to care. What's the worst thing that could realistically happen if you let somebody know what you need? Try it. It might be life-changing. We're all resistant to change - it's uncomfortable - but sometimes it's really for the best.
(You'd think that a person who believes life always sucks would have to be depressed, but that's not necessarily the case. This can be the person who is capable of holding two totally different beliefs at one time: "Yeah, life sucks, but I'm having a great time right now!")
If this is you, it's tough love time, cupcake. Get yourself up, get out of that victim mentality. What are you, five years old, and you have no control over anything? Your life sucks because - plain and simple - you allow it to. Upgrade your reality. Nobody's life is perfect all the time. Everybody has bills to pay, weeds to pull, some malady from a hangnail to heart disease. So? Those things have no bearing on how good life is. If you can't (meaning, choose not to) see the good, it doesn't mean life sucks. It just means your choices suck.
(Obviously, if this is not you, you're off the hook. Good job. And thanks for reading, anyway.)
Tweet Follow @UnchainedCoach
No comments:
Post a Comment